AS OF TODAY – FIFTY-YEARS-AGO . . . WE BOTH SAID I DO!
There’s A Simple Recipe For A Long Marriage That Doesn’t Take Rocket Science To Understand.
LOVE DOESN’T JUST HAPPEN . . . LOVE IS EARNED – THE HARDER THE BETTER:
Fifty-Years After Our Oath . . . I Have To Guess That We Both Meant It, since there was Never a Time When Anne & I Allowed our Differences to Come Between-Us.
We Fought & Argued Plenty . . . But We Always Knew – The Enemy Was Never Each Other.
The Day We Both Said I Do . . . Was the Beginning of an Incredible Adventure in Life . . . That We Could Have Never Imagined . . . from the Times We Lost Sleep Because of Bad Financial Issues, to the Times of Extreme Illness, to the Times of Physical Socio/Political Death Threats . . . That Required 24/7-Armed Security.
Here’s A Word We Never Said To Each Other . . . NO! We Never Denied Each Other Anything.
And Here’s Another Word We Never Said To Each Other – BLAME . . . As In – I Blame You for Whatever Went Wrong. And Believe Me . . . Plenty Went Wrong.
But As Our Own Two-Man Army – Whatever Challenges We Faced, We Faced Together.
As I Wrote In One Of The Preceding Paragraphs . . . Anne & I Knew the Fear of Real Poverty. We Also Knew all About Corporate Losses, Life Threatening Illnesses, and Life Challenges that Struck Pain at our Hearts . . . But Whatever Pain We Experienced – We Experienced & Rode With Together.
In Fifty Years Of Marriage . . . And One Year Of Previous Engagement . . . There was Never a Moment or a Thought of Betrayal to our Oath of Marriage or to Each Other, No Matter the Circumstance.
And Now – FIFTY-YEARS Later . . . We Can Sit Back Some, and Remember all the Good Times, which were Most of the Times, which we Could Not Have Appreciated Had it Not Been for the Times of Challenge.
YOU CAN’T KNOW WHO’LL STAND WITH YOU UNTIL YOU KNOW THE WORST:
You Can’t Know Success If You Haven’t Known Failure. You Can’t Live with Trust for Each Other if Your Life is Predicated on Lies & Deceit. And you Can’t Understand Each Other if you Don’t Do Battle . . . And Afterwards Make-Up With Compromise.
And You Can’t Respect The One You Love . . . If You Can’t Respect Yourself.
ANNE & I HAVE BEEN BLESSED . . . IN-SPITE OF IT ALL – WE HAVE EACH OTHER:
We’ve Been Blessed With Family & Friends . . . Maybe Most Importantly Friends, since we Can’t Choose our Family, but we Do Choose Our Friends. We Have Also Been Blessed in Business with the Many People we Partnered, and with Many of the Hundreds of People we Employed in One Capacity or Another Over the Years.
And We Have Also Been Blessed With The Animals That Became Part Of Our Lives.
A Great Marriage Is What We Make Of It . . . It is Perhaps the Hardest Challenge we Have in Life. And In-Spite of What We Believe About Other People and their Marriages . . . It’s Never Easy – But All The Best Things In Life Worth Having & Keeping Are Never Easy.
I Don’t Believe In Fairy-Tales . . . And I Don’t Believe In Fairy-Tale Marriages.
Hallmark Works Great On The Silver Screen . . . But on the Real Silver Screen of Love & Life, it is Hard Work, Commitment & Loyalty. Anne & I Have Been Blessed With Both.
HOW IMPORTANT IS A MARRIAGE BUILT ON TRUST, RESPECT & COMMITMENT?
If You Want To Know What Keeps Me Going – Anne & The Past 50-Years Keeps Me Going.
Best Regards . . . Howard Galganov